Although sex toys can add maximum pleasure to a relationship, its not always easy to get a partner involved. Let us share some tips to help it run smoothly.
While there is no right time to introduce sex toys into a relationship, probably bringing it up in the first few dates is a bit too soon. Instead, wait until you have had a few sex sessions and built up a good level of trust and communication both inside and outside of the bedroom. Praising your partner when they hit the right spots could speed up the process. Once they have the confidence they are satisfying you sexually, suggest a sex toy to enhance pleasure for the both of you and so your pleasure will be better received.
A good way to ease the subject of introducing sex toys is to find some articles on sex toys, then introduce them to your partner by saying “I found this great article on how sex toys can be great fun in a relationship, what do you think?” Let them read the article. This will allow you to gauge their reaction, and also allow you to have a discussion about sex toys to hopefully flow naturally between you.
It is important to be able to articulate why you would like to introduce a sex toy in to your sex life. Tell them what you already love about your sessions and reassure them that it will add more fun and reach new levels of intimacy. Be clear that a sex toy is no substitute for the emotional closeness you feel when you are sexually intimate with them.
A reason that your partner may be sceptical about bringing in a sex toy is the fear of the unknown. This is why it’s a good idea to research first. Giving yourselves a good knowledge and understanding of a toy you are wanting to introduce puts their minds at ease, erasing any doubts, helping to narrow down the variety of toys available and best ones suited to you both.
Shopping online is a good opportunity for you and your partner to connect and discuss products that you may be considering. Being able to browse in the comfort of your own home will make it easier for you to talk openly about what you may like to try. Once you have become relaxed about looking at different sex toys together, it will also be lots of fun.
If your partner is still unsure, don’t push it. It is important that you are both comfortable introducing sex toys. Leave the subject alone for a while and concentrate on other things in the bedroom. Maybe erotic massage oil combined with a massage, sexy outfits and role play. As your partner becomes comfortable with different sensations and experiences, they may warm up to the idea of introducing sex toys.
Give your partner a sex toy as a gift and allow them to become comfortable with it before introducing it in to your couple play. Once they discover the pleasurable sensations it brings, they will be happy to introduce it in to your sexual experiences.
To avoid your partner seeing a sex toy as a competition, you could start off with a remote controlled toy. This allows them to remain in control of the pleasure. An erotic experience for them to administer the powerful sensations as they tease you to orgasm from a distance.
A very common problem men as partners can have, is the fear of being left out. To ensure a sex toy is win win, shop together and maybe choose a couple-specific toy to start with. These can offer an array of pleasurable possibilities for both of you.